So my sis said I should tone down and not make it public. I shall edit the picture of his authorisation card a little bit more. But this doesn't mean I am a coward or whatsoever. And I think I will still keep this post public. But please remember, I AM THE VICTIM, not him!!! >.<
Before continue with what I'm going to write, I have to declare:
1. In general, I don't dislike or hate financial planner/insurance consultant. In fact, I have a few friends who are in this line.
2. I am calm and constantly reminding myself not to use words that are too harsh. But if you think I'm too emotional when you read the following post, please close the window/tab and leave it for good.
So what happened::
I was on my way to take bus home from Tampines bus terminal. As usual, around 6 to 8 insurance consultants crowded at the area and tried to approach whoever they deemed suitable to make sales. Usually I will reject them nicely when they approach me. After all, they are just trying their best to make a living. And why should I be rude if they are just saying hi and asked if I can spare them a few minutes right? But this time round, this particular consultant went overboard. He said 'Hi' to me, followed by '小姐，你是喜欢黄色吗？我也是喜欢黄色。。。笑话' (translation: Miss, you like yellow? Me too, I like yellow.. joke **yellow joke= dirty joke). I was so surprised and agitated by what he said and how he acted (he was smirking after uttering the nonsense, guess he was proud of himself for coming out with such a 'brilliant' pick up line). I stared at him but didn't confront him as I was carrying a heavy, big clutch and a few bags of groceries and in my 3.5-inch platforms. To answer to the consultant: Yes, I was wearing a yellow dress with a matching yellow clutch. Indeed, I think yellow is IN this season. And NO, I don't like dirty jokes. And I feel insulted by you. And I can actually sue you for sexual harassment under Penal Code 13A (S13A, Miscellaneous Offences (Public Order and Nuisance) Act ).
I continued my way to wait for my bus and boarded the bus eventually. I posted this on bus::
But I was so agitated and kept thinking if I should go home, put my stuff down and go back to bus terminal again to confront him while I was on the bus. When I reached my place, I almost cried. I felt that I was treated badly, insulted. I didn't wear anything revealing, I didn't smile at him, I didn't freaking shake my boobs and butt when walking towards him. Even if I did any of the above, what made him think that he can say what he should not have said to me. Why I, as a girl, should be treated in this manner. I am never into feminist movement as I believe both genders enjoy equal rights in this era. But I guess I am wrong. I knew I can sue him for sexual harassment based on what he said but I did not respond at all. I was so angry with myself as I've learnt all these in school but I didn't have the guts to voice out when I know for sure that I am right (and he is wrong). I was so angry with myself for not confronting him, letting him to hurt me. I know it'd be worse if I never go back to confront him. I would regret even more if I didn't do so- if I let him insulted me without having any consequences, he would think it's funny or even humorous to do so and most likely will do it to other girls as well.
So, I took bus and went back to terminal. I walked to his direction and he instantly knew that I was looking for him. And pretentiously asked: 小姐，你赶时间啊? (translation: Miss, you are in a hurry huh?) I told him I was looking for him and want to take down his name and contacts so I can report to the company. He still asked me with a smiley face if I have heard him wrongly (in our previous 'interaction'). I answered firmly that I didn't hear him wrongly. Instead, I heard every single word he said and told him that I wanted to take picture of his license and make a report. He said sorry but with a smiley face still. And asked if I am serious when I was taking photos of his license. And his colleagues shunned. All of them. None of them supported him or even dare to come near us. Yes, you can now say that I am very brave. After all, there were 6-8 of them and I was all alone. But the thought of being insulted was so painful to me that I braved myself to confront him. If I don't voice out for myself, who will do for me right?
So I snapped::
My advice to all, especially girls: Stand up for yourself if you think you are right because we should not be discriminated/insulted just because we belong to a certain group, e.g. being female.
To all guys out there: Use your limited mental ability to process all the information stored in your brain, i.e. think, before you speak.
**I said 'limited' mental ability as I believe that nobody can prove that they've fully unleash their potential, so don't be offended. ;)
To all friends who know this guy, especially those who are in the same work team as him: I am sorry to expose your friend's act. But please educate/advise him to act/speak wisely next time. Thank you very much.
To the person: Sorry, but I cannot and should not tolerate your act. Please be glad that I actually help you to disguise your picture on the authorization card.
To Prudential: From what I understand, the word 'prudence' (root word of prudential) means the exercise of good judgement/ common sense (correct me if I'm wrong). However, I don't see this particular employee (or rather, your agent's employee or your agent or simply, your representative) of yours has been exercising good judgement/common sense. So, please please please please train him if you allow him to keep his license/authorization card (whatever you call it). Your kind assistance will be greatly appreciated.
